GWII LeaderWalk – Leadership Pain

In collaboration with Business Engage and the 30% Club, Gauteng Women in Insurance (GWII) hosted a Leaderwalk on 8 March, with sponsors F&I Insurance and F&I Re.

Themed Leadership Pain, guest speaker Max Moyo, a global public speaker, author, leadership catalyst and human transformation coach shared practical insights on the key drivers of leadership.

Leadership from a new perspective

From corporate scandals to state capture. The question is where are the real leaders? What makes one an effective leader?

Moyo shared some key insights into leadership from a whole new perspective. “You were born with a unique identity. ID = Irresistible Difference… a unique way to make an irresistible difference. I believe every human is born to lead. One of the key things a leader has is a personal vision. Leaders are constantly moving and changing and adapting,” he said.

“The building blocks of leadership: leaders have a purpose; leaders have a unique conviction (its what you are willing to live for and to die for); leaders have a clear vision and a passion. Passion is driven by vision. If you lack passion, there can be no vision. What is your vision for your team? This then inspires others. If you inspire people, then you have influence over people. It is only when you have influence, that is when you are a leader,” said Moyo.

“Leadership is a privilege. Refined unique success, means you are a significant individual, and your contribution makes a different. You can never lead if you lack uniqueness and significance,” added Moyo.

Moyo’s definition of leadership is “Leadership is the capacity to influence others through inspiration, motivated by a passion, generated by a vision, produced by a conviction, ignited by a purpose, fulfilled by your unique talents manifested through your unique irresistible difference.”

Three key drivers of leadership

According to Moyo, there are three drivers of leadership. These are:

  1. A Declaration of Independence - how independent are you to make decisions? Crises and change affect leadership. Without a plan, time and change will rule you. As a leader, plan.
  2. Pain Threshold – leadership comes with pain – you leave everything you lived by etc. colleagues you used to hang out with, then as soon as you take the leadership position, no textbook can prepare you and everyone is looking at you and you have to walk around like you know everything, yet you walk around with pain… leadership pain. It’s brutiful (beautiful and brutal). Pain comes with the position, if you are not bleeding, you are not leading. Pain and leadership are inseparable. Understand and interpret your pain, clarify the lesson you are learning. Spend time with leaders who have high pain thresholds, take care of yourselves – mentally, physical, spiritually and relationally. There is no growth without change, no change without loss, and no loss without pain. What do you need to change in order to become more effect in your current role, for the next role? What do you need to lose, in order to gain? Growth is also equal to pain. Moving people forward, means causing pain.
  3. Integrity – Do what you say you will do. Keep your integrity level to at least 80%. Its really about doing what we say we will do, when we will do it.

A discussion

We thank our table hosts (below) for accepting our challenge to facilitate discussions:

  1. Aldrin Luthuli (Innovation Group South Africa)
  2. Ellen Gower-Mzolo (The Fulcrum Group SA)
  3. Steve Emms (F&I Insurance)
  4. Thato Phatlane (Constantia Insurance Company Limited)
  5. Toska Kouskos (Constantia Insurance Company Limited)

In the feedback session, all the table hosts agreed with the comments that Moyo shared.

Steve said “We need look inwards as leaders, at our own integrity and the pain factor – the discipline versus regret… its better to have that pain now, instead of regret. Leaders also need some support system. They need to say fewer yeses, and more nos. Stop trying to please everyone.”

Aldrin added that leadership that does not cause pain is not effective leadership and he agreed with Moyo that leaders need to spend time with leaders who have high pain thresholds and not procrastinate and put things on hold. “There is no growth without change, no change without loss, and no loss without pain.”

Ellen mentioned how our vision and purpose translates into our lives. “When it comes to visions and growth, some people don’t have it articulated and written down, so that’s the next step we need to take in our lives. People have passions, its just about writing it down and trying to keep on going. Some people are not ready, and the pandemic has made people think… like a vision board technic that solidifies things, to do what you also say you will do in life.”

Toska shared that we are all at different places and ages in our lives, but integrity for her, seems to be one of the key things of Moyo’s presentation. “Because someone with high integrity is not questioned. Your vision can also change. That does not mean your integrity and value will change.”

Thato concluded, “Yes, we have visions in our organisations but how many individuals have their own personal visions?

Thank you

Thank you to all the delegates who attended this event, we hope that the session provided practical insights on the key drivers of leadership.

Thank you to our sponsors F&I Insurance and F&I Re for making this event possible!

See photo album here