Self-care isn’t all face masks, bubble baths, incense, and glitter…
The truth is, self-care is a spectrum and can range from the unenjoyable to the pleasurable.
We want the benefits of this care without doing the groundwork, and unfortunately, there is no real care without the groundwork, which forces you to dig deep into yourself in order to understand what that care is and what it looks like.
Do the groundwork
But what does it mean to do the groundwork? And what is it supposed to feel like?
We all have our own ideas and beliefs, and these tie into what we associate with self-care.
The groundwork includes spending time with yourself, meditating, or praying. It consists of reading and stimulating your mind to help you tune your brain and consciousness to the right frequency.
This groundwork includes detoxing from all those things that cause negativity. It consists of doing the things that you are passionate about or get your heart going.
Self-care comes in many forms
Twelve realities of what self-care truly is:
- Self-care is when you decide to no longer avoid the necessary hard conversations with your internal self as an effort to grow. It’s releasing yourself of old habits and rituals that no longer contribute to your physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual health in a positive way.
- Self-care is a form self-allowance. Allowing yourself to forgive yourself, to love yourself, and to let go of any fear or resentment while being open to all life experiences.
- Self-care is embracing your weaknesses and insecurities as equally as you do your strengths and fortitude. It’s accepting that they make you who you are.
- Self-care is a willingness to let go of the people who no longer align with your core values and are detrimental to your growth.
- Self-care is also solitude. It’s intentionally setting aside time to spend by yourself so that you and your thoughts can get to know yourself better.
- Self-care is going to the gym. The gym is a place to train your mind to break past any mental constraints that it may be holding onto.
- Self-care is not saying ‘yes’ to every social event. Listen to your body and know when to stay in or go out without feeling guilty about it.
- Self-care is embracing mindful practices like meditation so that you can have awareness of self and the different emotions and thoughts that plague your mind. It’s fighting any stigmas you may have held onto about seeking help for your mental health and seeking the help you need through therapy.
- Self-care is realising that you don’t have all the answers, while not being afraid to ask or seek support when you need it. It’s also being honest and authentic with your feelings and emotions. It’s realising that you have control over how you react and respond to them.
- Self-care is finding meaning in loss or rejection. Every loss is a lesson in which we can build more wins. Every denial is a lesson of growth and self-worth.
- Self-care is allowing yourself to cry, to give your heart a break when it’s tired, and to detach yourself from the things you’re emotionally invested in.
- Self-care is deconstructing any preconceived notions of who the world wants you to be and growing into who you really are.
Self-care comes in many forms and looks different for all of us. Most importantly, it is taking the time to heal.
When doing the groundwork, don’t worry or get down on yourself as we’re all just doing our best.